The Power of No
Self Improvement, Empowerment
How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things-overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down? This lively, practical guide helps you take back that power-and shows that a well-placed "No" can not only save you time and trouble, it can save your life.
Drawing on their own stories as well as feedback from their readers and students, James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher clearly show that you have the right to say no: To anything that is hurting you. To standards that no longer serve you. To people who drain you of your creativity and expression. To beliefs that are not true to the real you. When you do, you'll be freed to say a truly powerful "Yes" in your life-one that opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love.
Still the couples captivate you with their unique story-telling style. James and Claudia each share deeply personal stories of loves lost and loves imagined. Some of the stories make us cry and others make us laugh, but they all cause us to feel. The authors describe their failures and successes with a rare and honest rawness. Their truth is bold and refreshing. The authenticity of the authors rips through the pages.
Throughout the book we are beaconed to question our fear and resist giving up. Fear we are told is not enough to sustain a relationship that hurts us or cause us to hurt others. We must question our fear and choose to fight for love and for peace. James reminds us that we will find love again and life will go on. We are encouraged to create, to dream, and to be.
Claudia and James offer us exercises that guide us in living in now. The wisdom that overlays the book is that we must take care of ourselves. We must maintain our physical, emotional, mental and Spiritual health. James acknowledges that when he practices these principles he makes good decisions and when he abandoned them he made costly mistakes. Claudia allows us the freedom to sit and be quiet with ourselves which allows our mind to recover from all of the world’s noise.
Like many books on healing this book will make your thinking shift. You may cry as you acknowledge activities, people, or things that no longer bring you joy but cause you pain. Whether you choose to act on these feeling is your choice but thoughts planted after reading this book will certainly deepen your journey. This is one of those rare books that forever changes your views and gifts you with a second chance to get living right. This books call us to choose our Ultimate " Yes" by learning to say NO.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who is on a healing journey or is feeling stuck in his or her life. This book is the perfect anecdote to heal your spirit and to start living again.
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Wishing You Peace and Joy,
Melisa Alaba is the Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her many classes on her website www.melisaalaba.com
FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.
One of the smallest of words, when used correctly is one of the most powerful in a happy, healthy life. I really liked this book not only because it came into my life at the perfect time when I had some major life changes in front of me, because it was a time in my life when I was open and really needed to say no to relationships, people and things that no longer , or never did suit me. It is a book perhaps I should have read a long time ago. I highlighted this book like crazy, and not so much for the stories, but the exercises. The chapters are written in the person by each author, and though many of the stories did not appeal to me in my life right now, I did appreciate the exercises and that is where I was able to get what was intended by the authors with the presentation of the book. The book starts with the 7 No bill of rights. The authors could have stopped right there, they are so appropriate but they continued on to a pretty thorough study of NO. I recommend this book to anyone who is caught up even just a little in a life that needs to be more free of the agendas of others and who wants or needs to be more authentic.
I received this book from Hay House and the opinions are my own.
My body went into a frenzy. I knew my son would become sick eating the school food. I knew I had come too far in our family’s quest for health. What began as a way of eating because of legitimate health concerns became a passion. Because of wisdom about PCRM, GMO foods, organic quality, and the killing of animals to eat their flesh three times per day, I felt very oppressed by the requirement to move backwards because of a rule. I believe what my family eats on a daily basis contributes to health and vitality.
I drove to the doctor’s office with a medical release form in hand. I was so afraid, shaking in fear that, even with our health issues, we would not have freedom from this plan. I thought of other children forced to eat in a way that does not honor health. I wondered if other parents were frustrated like me. Did they fight or relent and give in?
My son asked me why were at the Dr.’s office, and I said, “Because I am fighting for something I believe in.” I am fighting for this even if I look like a wacko, tree hugging, liberal, crazy parent. I took a blank piece of paper and wrote until the pen stopped. I listed every reason- some legit, and some because of my personal convictions, why this was important. The Dr. explained my son’s medical concerns, and we were granted freedom from the school plan.
It is no accident that during these couple of days I was reading The Power of No: There is a chapter called When to Say No to the Rules. When the rules take us away from living our truth that is right of us, we subscribe to black and white universe. We assume another’s truth is more valuable than our own. We all deserve to have our voices heard.
“The power of no is the power of discernment. Because if you don’t make your rules, someone else will.”
I made a conscious effort to focus on this challenge as a lesson in growth, standing up for what I believe in, and setting an example for my son. Asserting myself was confirmed in my favorite chapter called The No To Noise:
“From the silence we move towards a higher frequency life, one that we live as if it were a prayer. We lead lives that teach by example that show instead of tell. Lives that add instead of detract.”
May my actions show instead of tell.